Hi friends!
Today I want to chat about something that may not seem quilt related- being vulnerable.
Vulnerable
What does it mean? One definition is: “susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.” Or it relates to a person in need of special care, support, or protection because of risk of abuse or neglect, age, or disability.
Being a quilt pattern designer and a fabric designer means making yourself vulnerable. You pour yourself into your business and then you put yourself out there in the guise of your patterns and your quilts. Putting yourself out there opens you to attack.
You may be saying really? But yes, especially in these days of communication through the internet, people are more likely to say things they wouldn’t say in person. In other words, they forget what their mama taught them- if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything!
I was so nervous to share my fabrics with you all, worried about that but you were all so supportive! Thank you!
If you missed the posts about my new fabric lines, click here to read about Blooming and here for Paisley Got Mod!
Our Quilts and Patterns
A business savvy person might say that those quilts aren’t you and to remove yourself from the equation. Channeling the movie, When Harry Met Sally– “it’s not personal, it’s business.” Her response was classic. “It was personal to me; it was personal to a lot of people.”
Because that is “head” talk, not the emotional talk of a creative. And quilters are creative! All quilters.
You too.
People don’t like being vulnerable; it is equated with being weak. But putting yourself out there in a vulnerable position is an act of strength.
For Quilters
For you, a quilter, picking a pattern and putting your own assortment of fabrics together can be the fun part of quilt making. But it can also be stressful and make one feel vulnerable.
That’s why many quilt makers like kits; they know it will work and feel less vulnerable. And using kits is fun! Whatever way you approach quilt making, it’s all good. There is no judgement here. It’s what you like and what makes you happy.
And isn’t it funny how, while we may not like being vulnerable, we all point out our mistakes when someone compliments our quilts!!! Why do we do that?
Is that you? I do it too. We need to stop that!
Instagram and Facebook
As a quilt pattern designer, I have to be on IG and FB. And for people to decide to buy from me, I need to be seen and trustworthy, reliable and real. So, today on IG and FB, I and a few of my quilt designer friends posted selfies of ourselves to say Hi to the quilt community. It made all of us feel vulnerable.
So if you are on Instagram and /or Facebook, please go and check out their posts and leave them a nice comment. It will make them feel better.
My IG post:
And, if you aren’t on IG or FB, here is the blurb from my post. Just to make me feel even more vulnerable – especially after I have read some comments about women with grey hair. Yikes!!
Three random facts about me:
Next Week’s Post
Next week on the blog, I will be sharing about our October block remix challenge. This month we are remixing the block Clay’s Choice! My remix is so me- lots of HST, QST and pQST units!
And the following week I want to chat more about being creative.
What can I talk about in the future here on the blog to help you make quilts? That is what this blog is about, connecting and making. Please let me know in the comments what subjects we should chat about!
happy quilting!
Kate
p.s. some people asked me where you can buy the Paisley Got Mod fabrics; I know you can buy them online at Missouri Star. Click here.
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Kate – I am new to your site & blog and have enjoyed reading previous blogs. Your hair is lovely, many wish their grey hair would grow out as full and beautiful as yours. Feeling vulnerable can occur in many situations and come as a surprising response. Pushing through feelings of vulnerability to generate the energy to be creative again is a daunting task. Kudos to you for pushing through and not letting the feelings of being vulnerable block your creative juices. Thank you for sharing yourself and your talents with others.
Beth,
Thank you for your kind words and I am so happy you have the blog. I hope you find lots of good “nuggets” to help with your quilting. Best to you!
I really like the Mod Paisley!
Thanks Marge!
Hi Kate. I love, love your hair! I also decided a short while ago (or maybe more then a few years ago 😁) to give up hair coloring & embrace my “true self”. I get so many compliments & want to pass that along to you, I recently also decided to no longer wear facial makeup & I love it! So kudos to you; you look beautiful! I love your fabrics & quilt patterns…such a talent!
Betsy,
Thank you. That is so sweet! I love not coloring my hair and (usually) I don’t wear makeup either. I feel like me! And thank you for your kind words about my fabric and patterns. I do appreciate the support!